JUMPING FOR JOY
I’d started to talk to Alan suggesting for his 70th birthday in May, we go on a trip to England, so he could see his Sister, get together with old friends and visit his beloved Mudeford. He was still acting as my shadow following me everywhere; so one day when I pulled the passports out to double check them, he wanted to see his. Immediately, he had it in his hands he accused me of stealing it, telling me I had no right to it; it belonged to him, and generally getting very agitated and aggressive – he ran through the house yelling. Not wishing to exacerbate the situation I didn’t immediately follow, I thought I’d just wait for him to calm down. I waited 5/10 minutes and then when I found him, I asked what he’d done with the passport as I needed it to book our flights. He had no recollection of it – I spent weeks searching the house & Garage and couldn’t find it. On some level he knew I was extremely upset, and finally I told him I would have to file a Police Report in order to obtain a replacement. Probably a month or more went by, and still no passport and I was procrastinating filling out the forms.
Alan was very excited about the prospect of going back to England and his spirit and demeanor was visibly lifted. Did he comprehend anything I was telling him? I just kept reminding him, we couldn’t go anywhere without his passport. At night in bed, when he started sundowning, I would calm him with stories of our upcoming trip to England and Mudeford; eventually he would contentedly fall asleep in my arms.
One morning I had a man come to give me a quote for relaying sod, I was chatting to him in the front garden. Alan was walking towards me, his face beaming, he sidled up to me, gave me a nudge, and told me to close my eyes and open my hand, and then he put his passport on the palm of my hand. I burst into tears of joy, Alan started excitedly jumping about, and the poor sod man had no idea what was going on! While Alan was dancing about, I immediately went into the house and hid Alan’s passport in a very safe place.
Then I started to plan our trip back to England.